Dating is, well, hard. Especially if you are not that knowledgeable about what to do or what not to do. But don’t fret. I will teach you.
Here are 5 things to keep in mind next time you’re out on a date.
- Don’t forget your manners
If she looks nice, tell her that. I open the door as she walks through, or offer my arm as she steps down from the curb. I play it by ear and don’t go too overboard. I also make sure I remember her eye colour, and when I’m comfortable, I test the waters by leaning in a little closer as she speaks. If she backs away, well, it’s probably not going well.
- Be confident
Everyone’s nervous on a first date, but there’s nothing more attractive than a bit of self-confidence. When it comes to conversation, I stay in my comfort zone by coming up with a few topics that I can talk about easily so I’m not out of my depth too early. If I’m in doubt, I ask my date about themselves and go from there.
- Keep it casual
Drinks are fine for a first date. After all, no one wants to sit through the seven-course degustation with someone you’ve only just met especially if you both realise it’s not going to work after the entrees appear. If it’s a first outing, I head to a bar I have been to before because I’ll at least know my way there, and it’s one less thing I have to worry about. It’s perfectly ok to keep first or second dates to weeknights, but anything after the third outing together should be at the weekend. Otherwise, they’re going to wonder what you’re doing that’s so much more interesting than them. Or, worse, who.
- Be prepared
Your first date is a great opportunity to show her what you’re made of. And trust me, first impressions count for a lot. If you look like you’ve just stepped out of bed, your date is going to think you don’t really care. I get a new hair cut, sometimes invest in a new outfit, and check my teeth and nails are looking presentable. I always plan to arrive a little early so I’m not flustered when I walk in the door. Also, so that I will have a bit of time to give myself the quick once-over in the bathroom mirror. When it’s already time to order, I play it fairly safe by avoiding anything I’ve never tried before or that’s tricky to eat. If the foods I order involves a bib, it is best to steer well clear.
- Get a second opinion
If I’m a little clueless or just want to make sure I’m on the right track, I am not afraid to ask my friends for a few pointers. I see what they think of the outfit I’m planning to wear, or the venue I want to take my date to. It might mean I’ll end up dodging the restaurant that gave my mate gastro last week, or that I avoid wearing that shirt all my friends hate.
These are all just reminders rather than a lesson. Keep it in mind that the number one thing you should always do is to be prepared, be presentable and be considerate for your date.